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Happy first week of Spring!  I was so happy to see that the 1st Spring Reset was a blessing to so many hearts and I’m glad to know that I am not alone in feeling like I have to do something to keep my pace of life from spiraling out of control right now!  If you are just now reading about the Spring Reset for the first time then start here and go at your own pace! The point is just to take baby steps to hit the reset button on the year now that we find ourselves close to April with things maybe not going quite the way that we had hoped when we envisioned the new year (anyone? anyone?).

This week’s Spring Reset is a simple but profoundly helpful one and is something that I make a habit of doing every few months.  We’re going to call it your Instagram assessment and there are two parts to it!

Spring Reset #2: Instagram (social media) assessment.  Who are you allowing to be an influence and interruption in your day?

Step 1: The Instagram purge.  

If you are like me then you set out to be selective about who you follow on Instagram.  But over the course of a few months and with the help of enticing giveaways and “follow me” promos your feed gets a bit, well, diluted.  Each person that you are following on Instagram is someone that you are allowing to speak into your life.  Don’t believe me? Pay close attention to your internal monologue while scrolling innocently through your feed. “Ooo thats pretty. I wish I had that. I would never let my kid do that. Look at how many people “like” her? Ugh, I wish I were on that vacation. Her house is so clean. Ew, her house is so messy. She always looks so perfect. I need that new ______.  I wish my husband would do that for me! Yea, if I didn’t have kids I would have that body too. She is so much better then me at ________ .  She is so successful. I could never cook like that. Design like that, photograph like that. Dress like that. Travel like that. They never seem to fight. I wish we could go on a date night…”

Maybe its just me, but Instagram breeds jealousy and discontentment in my heart if I am not very careful about who I follow. Who I allow to “speak” into my day.  So here is what I do every few months and what I am going to do again today. An Instagram purge.

My general and intentional criteria for who I follow goes something like this:

1. Do they inspire me creatively, spiritually, emotionally, physically (as opposed to making me feel not good enough). If so, keep following!

2. Does following them tend to cause discontent in my heart. (Not necessarily their fault – its my own heart issue.) If so, its time to unfollow!

3. Do I tend to constantly compare myself to them in a negative way? If so, I should probably unfollow!

4. Are they a close friend or family that I want to be actively involved in their life and maintain a friendship? If so, keep following!

5. Does following them encourage/challenge me to grow (spiritually, emotionally, as a mom, as a wife. as a friend)? If so, keep following!

6. Are they someone in  my same industry who I find myself trying to one-up, or compete with? If so, I’m going to do myself a favor and unfollow! As a general rule, I don’t usually follow other people in my industry. This helps me to create from a place of authenticity and not from a reactionary position as it related to the work that I see them creating.

7. If I see them in my feed and I don’t immediately know who they are or why I specifically follow them then I unfollow them. haha I want to be able to go through my entire feed and verbalize exactly why I follow them.

This may all sound a little but intense to you but it has worked wonders for helping me to be fully present where I am, create from a place of authenticity, and grow as an artist and person.  I fight to guard my heart.

“Above all else, guard your heart. For everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4:23

 

Step 2: Enough already with those darn push notifications!!

Seriously, don’t even get me started here!!  My mental space is too precious and limited and my heart already too divided every minute of the day to allow others to constantly and freely insert themselves into my day.  I probably sound mean but just hear out me on this. We (ok , just me maybe?) crave constant validation and approval and getting Instagram pushes (or any pushes at all) to my phone only feed that beast and I want my heart to be as far away from that as possible. “Are people liking my pic? Did anyone comment? How many people commented? What does that e-mail say?”  How many times have I been in the middle of work, or playing with my kids, or talking to my husband and I allow some e-mail push, Facebook push, Instagram push, Twitter push to barge right into the middle?  I don’t care if you don’t open it up. It takes probably .0002 seconds to glance over and read it and BAM you have just allowed something else to take precedence over your priority in that moment.  In general it might seem harmless but how many times have you gotten a frustrating e-mail or comment pushed to your phone and it has derailed your evening at home with the family.  Like I said before…there is no perfect work/life “balance” where each gets equal but separate attention.  There is only a minute by minute choosing of priorities.  Not having ANY pushes to my phone helps me to be fully present and intentionally maintaining my priorities.  If you don’t believe that the world will not stop if you turn off your push notifications then I dare you to just try it for a week and let us know how it goes!

Ok, I’m stepping off my soapbox.  I LOVE Instagram. Like…LOVE it and I think that it has enhanced my family’s life in a lot of ways.  But like everything, you can have too much of a good thing and in the fight to win back focus and presence and clarity in my life, Instagram is one of the first places that changes must me made for me.

I hope that you have a wonderful week! Please share your thoughts below and let us know about how your Spring Reset is going with the #SpringReset password (yes, the irony is not lost on me). I’m off to purge my Instagram feed and shut off those push notifications right now!

xoxo,

Shay

Beach

Its a rough life here in FL ;)